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True Happiness…can you find it?

Posted on August 28, 2018 by rhondafister Leave a comment

If you do a quick search on the internet on true happiness, you will stumble upon hundreds of quotes, papers, research, books, seminars, videos, you name it! We hunger and thirst for it, and spend years looking for it. And often in the wrong people, places or things! Can you find it? Is there such a thing as true happiness?

Here are a few quotes I found to be extremely profound!

True happiness is … to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future. ~Lucius Annaeus Seneca~
True happiness is to learn how to live beyond the imperfections. ~Rita Maata~
Happiness is making your dreams come true. ~Jourdan Dunn~
True Happiness – The Beatitudes. ~The Bible~

What is true happiness for you? As you read through the quotes above, think about what they mean to you at this present moment? Have you been enlightened? Are they speaking to you?

One of the truths in regard to happiness is that it is not circumstantial. It means we don’t have to wait for everything to be perfect, nor do we have to control anything outside of ourselves in order to feel a certain way. That is good news!

I love this quote (on the left) … learning to say NO to the things and people that stress you out.

The older and wiser I get, I find myself doing this more and more! Because I’m an empathetic, compassionate and a good listener type of person, I often find myself with people and things I don’t have the energy to deal with, especially negativity! I call these people Energy Drainers! No matter what advice I offer to fix the problem, they always have a reason why it won’t work! I think they just want to grumble and complain!

I’m learning to walk away and just say NO. I also repeat in my head “not my monkey, not my circus!” And I move on!! If I have the energy, time and space to allow it, then I will carve out the time for that person or situation, but it’s not going to infringe or take control over my happiness. That’s how I deal with it! You are responsible for what makes you happy!

ACTION STEPS:

Every day adopt an attitude of gratitude, complain less and appreciate more.
Write down the things you are grateful for.
If it makes you happy, do it. If it doesn’t then don’t!
Every day remind yourself that you are in charge of your happiness. Try not to let anything that is outside of yourself control you.

Peace my friends! Remember it’s all about being Intune, living a balanced life in harmony and alignment with yourself!

True Happiness

Adopt the Pace of Nature

Posted on August 22, 2018 by rhondafister Leave a comment

Adopt the Pace of Nature … Her Secret is Patience ~Ralph Waldo Emerson~

Ralph Waldo Emerson was an American Transcendentalist poet, philosopher and essayist during the 19th century. One of his best-known essays is “Self-Reliance”. I stumbled upon this quote of his: “Adopt the Pace of Nature – Her Secret is Patience.” This intrigued me and I had to take a moment just to ponder!

I’ve always loved being in nature working in my garden planting, pruning, designing, and creating a beautiful space and sanctuary at home. I also love the beach, the ocean, sand and sun (one of the reasons I moved to a tropical climate!)

The Beach is My Happy Place

People call it their “happy place” because we feel more alive and at peace at the ocean! We react favourably to water as it relaxes us, reduces stress and anxiety and increases insight, clarity and creativity. Nature calms us, grounds us, settles and balances us. While acknowledging the constantly changing nature of your life, you look to balance it by giving significant attention to each of the dimensions.

Self-Responsibility

Wellness begins with you, it is a self-responsibility and you are responsible for your health and happiness. The key belief of this writer is that each person could transcend, or move beyond the physical world of senses into deeper spiritual experiences through free will and intuition. Believers understood God and themselves by looking into their own souls and by feeling their own connection to nature.

The Secret to Living a Calm, Sane Life is Being InTune

The author stated that we should: “Adopt patience for the best things take the longest time to come to fruition. Adopt patience and you’ll realize it’s the secret to living a calm, and sane, life.” One thing that comes to my mind about work is that we should be working to live, not living to work. I cannot stress enough that it’s about balance and staying in tune with yourself!

Just like an instrument needs constant tuning after it’s played otherwise it is either flat or sharp and doesn’t sound good. If life is stressful, or work, family or friends are pulling and tugging at you, retreat to a quiet place like nature. Take a few deep breaths, enjoy the view and sit in silence and quiet or put on Zen Music. Think about the things that bring you joy, peace, happiness and GO AFTER THEM! Say yes to these things and make them part of your daily life. You can’t fix everyone and everything.

Action Steps

Find a quiet place in nature, take some deep breaths and ask yourself what brings you joy, peace and happiness? If you could do anything, what would it be?
Make a list of those items and begin to add them into your life, organize your thoughts.
Make time for yourself each day.
Say NO to DRAMA and people who drain your energy.
FOCUS on the responsibility you have to yourself in regard to health & wellness.

Peace to you my friends! Stay InTune!